Last week, @fortheloveoffluff_ asked me how I dealt with the fears of being of disliked, and I told her I would think about an answer it here on the feed because this was a common concern when I asked why you do or don’t blog.
I do fear being disliked.
It used to consume a lot of my mental energy, and anxiety.
This year, I had a big moment in my personal life about being disliked that hit close in my friend circle, and what helped me through it the most was recognizing how many people were still cheering me on.
You’re always going to be disliked.
There’s always going to be a hate comment on a blog post or YouTube channels.
Block that energy.
You don’t need that.
What you do need are people in your circle who cheer you on, and recognize them. Cheer them on. Love on them. Focus on those relationships. For me, focusing on those relationships helped me realize that being disliked didn’t really matter because @officialjaysnesthad my back, because I knew that @nerdymommas would take anyone in a fight for me, and because I knew that @cedarandoakphotography would bring me a cup of coffee and breakfast sandwich.
If you fear being disliked, I would recommend focusing on who likes you, and stregthening that relationship, and letting that experience consume you with love and gratitude. It’s hard to do, and sometimes I smother people with love, but you learn the ebb and flow and boundaries.
People will always dislike you.
It matters less when you show up as your authentic self.
It happens less when you focus on sharing love, kindness, and inclusivity.
And if you need someone to cheer you on, send me a message, tell me about your hater, and I’ll tell you how incredible of a job your doing, because you are doing a great job in achieving your goals. I know feels slow, but you will find your groove.