You don’t have to love every moment of motherhood

You don’t have to love every moment of motherhood.
There are moments to cherish and moments of survival. 

Nurturing a little person and yourself requires messy moments and hardworking that won’t always look picture perfect memory making wonder. 

? Unfollow the accounts that make you feel envious, sad, or less then.
? Find rhythms that work for you.
? Remember you don’t need a picture perfect aesthetic.
? Redefine what a successful day looks like.
? Challenge your beliefs about what is expected. 

Most importantly, your feelings are valid and don’t try to fit into someone else’s expectation of motherhood. Motherhood will play out differently for every person. And others expecting you to fit into a mold, ain’t gonna happen and shame on them for expecting that. 

—- early motherhood and I were not friends, and that’s okay. It has gotten both harder and easier. It took my first 3 years to sleep through the night, and watching him become a bigger person, I’m learning why he was like that, and I am gentle to myself looking back on those memories. I couldn’t have known, and I should have given myself more love and grace to accept the chaos that was ensuing as we learned who each other was as new people.